In a world where using insurance is common, clients often wonder to themselves “why would I choose to work with a self-pay counselor when I can see someone that accepts my insurance?”

Be honest-when you read the word selfish, do you get a knot in your stomach? A lump in your throat? A feeling of nausea? If so, chances are that you, dear reader, likely have some people pleasing tendencies.

This past weekend when I was doing yard work I thought to myself “this process feels familiar, what does it remind me of?” And then it dawned on me-doing yard work is a lot like doing mindset work…

Believing that we have to do something to deserve what we want holds us back. If my underlying belief is that “I am not worthy” and that I don’t deserve the thing I want, I am not going to allow myself to have it because the thing I want doesn’t match with my belief about myself.

The problem with using positive affirmations is that they ignore one gigantic thing…the subconscious mind.