Many people learn people-pleasing in childhood, especially if they grew up with adults that could be unpredictable or explosive.

A person that chameleons, is someone that is constantly adjusting and adapting themselves to “fit” into their current environment. 

Be honest-when you read the word selfish, do you get a knot in your stomach? A lump in your throat? A feeling of nausea? If so, chances are that you, dear reader, likely have some people pleasing tendencies.

Believing that we have to do something to deserve what we want holds us back. If my underlying belief is that “I am not worthy” and that I don’t deserve the thing I want, I am not going to allow myself to have it because the thing I want doesn’t match with my belief about myself.